A friend of mine asked me, in these times of seemingly contradictory information, how to tell who’s speaking the truth, and who isn’t.
The answer is simple:
All you have to do is look and see who is calling people names, and who is engaging in ad hominem attacks rather than addressing actual issues and questions. Also, it should go without saying (but sadly, it doesn’t) that you should not believe when someone says they’re being “attacked” or “slimed,” until you’ve checked out the source(s) yourself. An acquaintance of mine recently complained to me that he’d been “publicly humiliated” by the moderator of a certain forum; when I finally found the conversation he was referencing (which he was careful not to direct me to himself), I found that the “humiliation” in question was, in fact, a rather polite disagreement with something he’d said. DISAGREEMENT IS NOT AN ATTACK.
I’ve found that those who engage in the worst mud-slinging will often claim they are victims of similar treatment, and yet, no one but them seems to have seen those insults. When asked to produce evidence of these attacks upon them, they will not be able to show screencaps or links, but steadfastly maintain that they have been slandered, nonetheless. And then they’ll keep on slinging their own, “retaliatory” mud in full view. Usually, when someone’s really being “slimed,” everybody knows it and you’ve already seen it.
It also is important to note that comments by other people visiting a person’s blog or YouTube channel cannot and should not be credited to the owner of that forum – many people running discussion forums do not delete comments unless they’re obscene or threatening, which often means that comments they themselves disagree with must stay. Many moderators also feel it’s better, when someone says something rude on their blog, to let the comment stand, but ignore it, as those who are rude on discussion forums are often just looking for attention. So, when calling people out for being rude, make sure you’re calling out the right person.
And fer goshsakes, folks, let’s be nice out there. There’s no reason to sling mud or engage in name-calling. If you disagree with a statement, disagree with the statement, but don’t call the person who said it a jerk; that sort of nonsense is simply counterproductive, and in the end, only makes everyone look bad.